My Son Is Engaged

My son's age is 24 last December. At that age he has completed his studies at Multimedia University at Cyberjaya, of which I am very grateful. Some of my friends are still supporting their children even way over that age due to factors like having to resit for their papers or they break their studies and the study years becomes longer. Some parents after spending so much more, their children failed. I am considerably lucky.

Its a normal thing for youngsters to fall in love during their studies. The same applies to my son. He has been courting his girfriend in the beginning of Second Semester. My son told me about this girl and I gave him my blessing. I did not give him much advice though but I told him as a couple they must succeed in their studies to be able to show the world that love is also a success factor. So they did. The girl now is pursuing her studies in Australia in her Master and Ph.D since she is becoming a lecturer. My son stopped work at one of an achitect company and started his own business in multimedia designing. In short he is a businessman and his fiance is a lecturer in advertising.

Being a civil servant, I think a lot about my son and his fiance, in this case, she being a civil servant with fixed income. Among the things that I ponder whenever I think of them is will their work come in between their marriage? Will the shrinking economy affect my son and his business? Will my daughter-in-law feel bad if my son's business happens to be affected very badly by the economic crisis? Will she mind having her husband coming home with little or no income for months waiting for the payments from clients?

I have seen cases of marriage rocking because the spouse is not at par, one having fix income, the other half is not. I have also being told that parents normally will advice their daughters to marry fix incomes earner if they are non government workers or vice versa. Will anyone one answer me the logic behind this? I have come across couple not working with government enjoying stable income and happy marriage at the same time? Many of my friends who married among civil servants broke their marriage with reasons other than financial and stability. When I posed this question to my son, his response is simple, love is everything and love changes everything too. I wonder if that's the best answer but at the moment, you can tell him anything, he does not see anything but just his fiance. So does the girl. So let them enjoy life huh?